Do you know LOVE....??

1.  Love is mistaken for DESIRE

When you go to the movies and watch the classic love story there is usually a moment when he says to her, Darling, I love you.” But what he really ‘means’ is, “I want you. I want to be with you. I want you to be mine...tonight!”.  And of course she reciprocates with an, “I love you too.” Which often means, “I’ve got you!”  But true love doesn’t desire or possess. True love doesn’t want anything. Authentic love is already complete and its only intention is to connect and to give, not acquire.

2.  Love is mistaken for ATTACHMENT

When we say, “I love my football team or I love my new car or I love my garden.” It’s not love. What we really ‘mean’ is, “I am attached to my football team, I am attached to my new car”. And love is not attachment, if for no other reason than all attachment causes fear, and fear in this dualistic world is the opposite of love. Fear is love distorted by attachment.

3.  Love is mistaken for DEPENDENCY

When we say, “I love my cocaine. I love my morning coffee. I love the food they serve”… this is to confuse love with dependency. Love is not dependent on anything. We are really saying we believe these things make us happy. They seem to, but it’s not ‘authentic happiness’, only a temporary stimulation or relief from suffering.  

4.  Love is mistaken for IDENTIFICATION

More commonly some say, “I love my nation, I love my country.” Again, this is not love it’s identification. We are identifying with a nationality, which in itself is a mistake. The self has no nationality. Love does not identify with anything that is not itself, which is everything! As soon as we identify with something that we are not the ego takes birth, suffering arises and love is impossible.

It is these illusions that keep us searching for love. In our search for love we will look in almost every corner of the world. We seek love as acceptance and approval in our many relationships. We desire the ideal love in the fiction of the perfect romance. We expect to find love in what we do, what we acquire and even in the places we go. There are always temporary satisfactions on these roads, but disappointment is also inevitable, until we realize they are deadends.

Only by acts of selfless kindness, unconditional forgiveness and limitless compassion is love felt. Only by the intention to benefit ‘the other’ before the self, is love made real and realized. And yet, even this is only possible when it is not a deliberated act, when motive is innocent. The motivation ‘to love’ is not love, for love needs no motive.

It is the satisfaction of all need. When love is realized, there are no needs. In ‘reality’, there never was.

Boho Hippie Headband

Headbands are a clothing accesory worn in the hair or around the forehead, usually to hold hair away from the face or eyes. Headbands generally consist of a loop of elastic. material or a horseshoe-shaped piece of flexible plastic or metal. They come in assorted shapes and sizes and are used for both fashion and practical/utilitarian purposes.

Source: Wikipedia 

OMG... all of them are cute!! Love it... love it... love it....

Bohemian Styles

I love Bohemian styles, it's feeling free when we wear it....

 

http://indulgy.com/Eva%20P%C3%A9rez/Boho%20Hippie%20Gypsy%20Chic%20Fashion

Lana Del Rey

First time I heard Lana Del Rey song in V channel, I like her song such as "Born to Die" and "Blue Jeans". But I like all her songs in that album. All songs look similar, but it's still nice to listening. Some people think that she is weird, but I think it's normal for artist to look weird  :D  She is a sexy singer with a sexy voice. 

"Born to Die"  is the most fastest album sold out in 2012

Does Being Friends With Benefits Ever Lead to Love?

Have you met a guy who wants you and him to be "friend with benefits"? Do you think that you may want to handle a relationship based solely on physical attraction? How should you deal with a relationship that would be without romance at all? If you are trying to figure out if you should enter into a situation with a certain man in which you are "friends with benefits" and nothing more, you may want to think again. Read on to find out why.

If you can honestly sit down and tell yourself that you have absolutely no feelings for the guy whatsoever and that you are 100% positive that you won't develop any, then go for it. However, if there is some doubt in your head then there are a few things that you should ruminate on before taking any action.

You are human and you are a woman. This means that you naturally tend to develop closer binds with people that you feel intimate with. Some people can put up a wall between physical intimacy and emotional intimacy, but it is difficult and can be harmful overall. Think about how you would feel if you did have sex with him, and then saw him out with another woman the very next night. If that fault makes you angry, jealous, or ill, then you should not sleep with him in the context of being friends with benefits.

Think about why you are doing it. Is it simply to please yourself because you don't want to worry or hassle of a relationship right now? Or is it because you feel as if he may develop feelings for you and learn to love you? Never enter into the friends with benefits situation if you honestly want anything more from the guy. It is unfair to you both. He will not understand or be expecting you to want to be treated like his girlfriend, so when you get hurt you will have only yourself to blame.

If you are having doubts about your ability to handle or emotions or secretly want him to feel more for you then you must avoid becoming his "friend with benefits" at all costs.

Author: Tina L. Jones

Real Friend vs Fake Friend

What is Friend? How you recognized your Friend is real and fake ? They’re lots of idea and hard discussion when we defined Friend. They’re said Friend is the one who you can trust and tell your secret or problem, one which cares for you in times of sorrow and joy.  But how can you tell if a friend is really a friend?

Are you being supported or renounced? When you go to your friend, and they immediately say no, or act as if they can’t help you with whatever situation has you down, would you call that a friend? True enough, some individuals may not be in the greatest financial state to help, but what about words of encouragement, or just being there for you to be able to vent your frustrations? These two ideas involve no money, and can help just as well. If you have a true friend, they immediately try to place themselves in your shoes. They want to feel your pain and be apart of the healing process.

Will they have your back if someone is talking negative things about you, or do they join in? Have you ever experienced confronting someone for saying negative things about you, only to find out your best friend was involved, possibly starting the whole discussion? A real friend would always back you up. They would never sit around and let others talk about you in a negative way without you being there to defend yourself. As a matter of fact, if they are loyal to you like they claim to be, they would call you right in the mist of the negative talks, put you on speaker phone and help you defend yourself.

Are your secrets safe with your friend? You get to the point in your friendship where your feel like you can tell your friend anything, sometimes you can’t get it out fast enough! It’s great to be able to tell good and bad news just to get it out of your system. But, when you and your friend have a disagreement, or argument about something, do they attack you with the most hurtful things you’ve shared with them? Do they go and blurt your business to mutual friends or total strangers? If they do, you might want to question them as a friend, and if they ever really were your friend.

Are they happy or jealous when you’ve achieved something great? When you go to your friend with exciting news, they should be just as happy as you are, or at least try to be. They should support you with congratulating words and positive.

Source: Glenark29's Weblog

90's is the Best!!

I really enjoy my teenager time at 90's. Many popular stuffs that the teenager like to wear or use it at the day or just crazy about the western singer or band. You will recognize how the teenager fashion and style in 90's if you grew up in 90's!!!

This is some list which is so popular in 90's (Time when I was in Junior and Senior High School) :

- Demi Moore hair style for the girls (ggggrrrr..... I was try for short hair of Demi) -- "KDM / Korban Demi   Moore"

- Colour sport shoes -- Nike, Reebok, LA Gear, etc

- Big watch for girls -- "Jam jengkol"

- Collection fashion magazine -- Gadis, Mode, Aneka

- Alpina Bag

- Colours long sock

- Collection the poster of NKOTB or Gun n Roses 

- Collection cassette tape music

- Graffiti, Hammer, Benetton t-shirt

- Tight necklace -- "Kalung cekek"

- Dr. Marten shoes -- "Dokmart"

Hair ala Demi Moore

Big watch

Gadis magazine

Gadis magazine

Sport shoes

Cassette tape music

Tight necklace

Dr. Marten shoes

The Old TV Serial

In the 90's, there are famous and good serial tv movies such as Mission Impossible, Mac Gyver, 21 Jump Street, Knight Rider, Tour of Duty or serial drama tv such as Dynasty. At the time we only able to watch it through television, the vcd player is not popular yet like this day. Now its easily to get many copy of movies by vcd, even to get old movies. But I am not really sure for serial tv movies that I mention above, I guess you can get it in originally through on line shopping.

Dynasty

Mac Gyver

21 Jump Street

Mission Impossible - Old version

Close the past and accept the reality

Thought: I wish I had other decisions made earlier. I wish I could go back to the past. I had only ever done this. I had never done that.

Key idea: If the past had been otherwise, I was happier now.

The reality: The past is closed. There is nothing you can do now to get it back. Sometimes that is unfortunate, but it is the truth. If you are too stuck in the past, it is your future in the road. Perhaps this thought may be comforting: "With the knowledge you had and the person you were, you did the best decision." Now you would probably have done differently, but who does not? Forgive yourself for your mistakes, close it and make a new start.

The choice: Choose to peace with the past. You've done your best. You can now nothing to change. Why fight against something that does not come back? If you fight against the past, you fight against your own thoughts. Try the lesson you've learned from the past to use for better choices in the future.

As you fight the real cost. Wish that the reality is different, cost you a lot of energy. You break your head about whatever you want and are disappointed that it does not. "If only it were different ..." You can not change the reality: you are as you are, others are as they are and the past will not return. So fight the reality is a scenario for frustration. It is much smarter to understand that it is simply the reality and let go.

That does not mean you should accept everything uncritically and no action can take: You can continue to develop yourself. You can now make better choices for the future. You can give others your opinion on their behavior. These are the choices you have. Give yourself the freedom to accept the reality. The choices that you make you feel comfortable and you'll find that the relief and space you create in your life. On your success!

--Author unknown--

Harajuku Style

I love to see Japanese people in fashion, it's full of colour and called is Harajuku style. They like to mix and match different colour on dress but it still look cool. The hair, makeup, shoes and accessories is unique. I think is need high self confident to the people to wear Harajuku style in the street in Indonesia :D

Harajuku Style varies considerably and there are many different looks ranging from elegant gothic lolita to punky modern looking Visual Kei - which is inspired by japanese rock group (jrock). The costumes to appear like anime characters, punk rock musicians, and various harajuku gothic styles.

Tokyo is a huge fashion epicentere around the world. Youths in Japan dress in vibrant clothing. They mix and match different clothing styles and create their own style, sometimes with big coloured hair and cute accsessories. While many people from all around the world are influenced by Harajuku, the real Harajuku style fashion stays where it originated from - in the area itself. 

 

 Source: harajukustyle.net

Famous Mysterious Stories

*The Crying Boy Painting* In 1988, a mysterious explosion destroyed the home of the Amos family in Heswall, England. When firemen sifted through the burnt-out shell of the house, they found a framed picture, entitled ‘The Crying Boy’, which was a portrait of an angelic-looking boy with a sorrowful expression and a tear rolling down his cheek. But the picture was not even singed by the blaze. 

Is it true or just hoax?

The Crying Painting Boy

*The Amityville Horror (1979)* Based on a true story and is about a large house on the coast of Long Island where newly weds George and Kathy Lutz and their three children move into the house that they hope will be their dream house but it ends up in terror.

After watch the movie I start to search on internet everything about the story of the Amityville horror house. For me it is interesting!

Movie of The Amityville Horror

The most horror house in USA. Now the real estate sell the Amityville Horror House on Market for $1.15 Million. Anyone interest it....? Hopefully there is no ghost anymore inside the house.

The Amityville House

*The Exorcist* Based on true story, In 1971,  one of the most popular horror films of all time was written. And in 1973, the film, ‘The Exorcist’ was aired for the first time on the big screen. A film based on the true paranormal events and exorcism of a boy named, Roland Doe. The writer, William Peter Blatty became inspired to write this book after he discovered there were diaries of the exorcism, written by the Jesuit Priests – during and after Rev. William S. Bowdern’s repeated attempts to exorcise 13 year-old Roland Doe.

Club 27

Club 27 is the name given to a group of influential rock musicians that died at the young age of 27. There are a few "members" who are always listed in "27 Club" groupings - such as Jimi Hendrix, Jim Morrison and Kurt Cobain - while other musicians who were 27 at the time of their death are included sporadically, depending on who has composed the list (another term for this club-that-nobody-wants-to join is the Forever 27 club). Though the official causes of death vary between the different musicians - from suicide to overdoses on sleeping pills to, yes, choking to death on vomit - drug and alcohol abuse is often cited as a primary cause behind many of these deaths.

"The number of musician who passed away at 27 is truly remarkable by any standard. (Although) humans die regularly at all ages, there is a statical spike for musicians who die at 27" -- By: Charles R. Cross

Source:  
ranker.com
Wikipedia

Jim Morrison -- Death on 3 July 1971

Mia Zapata -- The Gits Band -- Death on 7 July 1993

Brian Jones -- Rolling Stones -- Death on 3 July 1969

Jimi Hendrix -- Death on 18 September 1970

Janis Joplin -- Death on 4 October 1970

Kurt Cobain -- Death on 5 April 1994

Amy Winehouse -- Death on 23 July 2011