Close the past and accept the reality

Thought: I wish I had other decisions made earlier. I wish I could go back to the past. I had only ever done this. I had never done that.

Key idea: If the past had been otherwise, I was happier now.

The reality: The past is closed. There is nothing you can do now to get it back. Sometimes that is unfortunate, but it is the truth. If you are too stuck in the past, it is your future in the road. Perhaps this thought may be comforting: "With the knowledge you had and the person you were, you did the best decision." Now you would probably have done differently, but who does not? Forgive yourself for your mistakes, close it and make a new start.

The choice: Choose to peace with the past. You've done your best. You can now nothing to change. Why fight against something that does not come back? If you fight against the past, you fight against your own thoughts. Try the lesson you've learned from the past to use for better choices in the future.

As you fight the real cost. Wish that the reality is different, cost you a lot of energy. You break your head about whatever you want and are disappointed that it does not. "If only it were different ..." You can not change the reality: you are as you are, others are as they are and the past will not return. So fight the reality is a scenario for frustration. It is much smarter to understand that it is simply the reality and let go.

That does not mean you should accept everything uncritically and no action can take: You can continue to develop yourself. You can now make better choices for the future. You can give others your opinion on their behavior. These are the choices you have. Give yourself the freedom to accept the reality. The choices that you make you feel comfortable and you'll find that the relief and space you create in your life. On your success!

--Author unknown--