Have you met a guy who wants you and him to be "friend with benefits"?
Do you think that you may want to handle a relationship based solely on
physical attraction? How should you deal with a relationship that would
be without romance at all? If you are trying to figure out if you should
enter into a situation with a certain man in which you are "friends
with benefits" and nothing more, you may want to think again. Read on to
find out why.
If you can honestly sit down and tell yourself
that you have absolutely no feelings for the guy whatsoever and that you
are 100% positive that you won't develop any, then go for it. However,
if there is some doubt in your head then there are a few things that you
should ruminate on before taking any action.
You are human and
you are a woman. This means that you naturally tend to develop closer
binds with people that you feel intimate with. Some people can put up a
wall between physical intimacy and emotional intimacy, but it is
difficult and can be harmful overall. Think about how you would feel if
you did have sex with him, and then saw him out with another woman the
very next night. If that fault makes you angry, jealous, or ill, then
you should not sleep with him in the context of being friends with
benefits.
Think about why you are doing it. Is it simply to
please yourself because you don't want to worry or hassle of a
relationship right now? Or is it because you feel as if he may develop
feelings for you and learn to love you? Never enter into the friends
with benefits situation if you honestly want anything more from the guy.
It is unfair to you both. He will not understand or be expecting you to
want to be treated like his girlfriend, so when you get hurt you will
have only yourself to blame.
If you are having doubts about your
ability to handle or emotions or secretly want him to feel more for you
then you must avoid becoming his "friend with benefits" at all costs.
Author: Tina L. Jones
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